Does any of this sound familiar?
- Youre sick of the word whatever .
- Youve thought of selling two of your children and arranging for a long-term loan of the third.
- Youd have a coronary if you ever walked into one of your kids rooms and it was picked up.
- You remember way back when your spouse paid attention to you.
- A good day is when you only send your kids to their room once. An even better day would be sending your kids to a foreign exchange program (any country will do).
- An exciting evening with your spouse is no yelling, no screaming, and no trips to the ER.
- Youre the head of the family, but you hear a lot of things thirdhand.
- You just came to the realization that there are three of them and only two of you.
- Sex is a distant memory. Now all you want is a little peace and quiet and a good nights sleep.
- You remember saying, For better or for worse, but now you wish youd have thought it over a little more before you said, Till death do us part.
- The last flower you saw was at your uncle Harolds funeral.
- Youd like to ground your kids for life... somewhere else.
- Everybody wants a piece of you, and theres nothing left to give.
- You knew marriage and parenthood wouldnt be a cakewalk, but you didnt expect this.
- The only family member who listens to you is the dog.
- You feel like the Whac-A-Mole recipient of the family.
- You spend a lot of your time wishing things were different in your family.
Well, wishes can come true. You can be on your way today to a happy family by Friday. Is it really possible? Yes! In fact, you can have a happier family by Wednesday. Embrace the truths and suggestions in this book, practice them, and watch them last a lifetime.
2014 by Dr. Kevin Leman
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P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
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To protect the privacy of those who have shared their stories with the author, some details and names have been changed.
To my family,
who has taught me so much
and continues to teach me about having a happier family.
My beloved bride, Sande.
Our children: Holly and her husband, Dean; Krissy and her husband, Dennis;
Kevin; Hannah and her husband, Josh; and Lauren.
Our grandkids, Conner and Adeline,
whom we love to the moon and the stars.
Contents
Cover
Does any of this sound familiar?
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Introduction
SuccessGuaranteed
Monday
Choose Your Words, Change Your Family
What you say and how you say it has everything to do with how your loved ones respond.
Tuesday
The Big 5: Time, Priorities, Activities, Work, and Finances
What to do, what not to do, and why.
Wednesday
Navigating the Perfect Storm
How to get the best from toddlers, teenagers, and all ages in between.
Thursday
Why Dad Cant Be Mom and Mom Cant Be Dad
Tweaking your rolesand your marriageto their finest, indelible sheen. (If youre single, theres good stuff here for you too.)
Friday
Mission: Possible
How to make your time together count and make lasting connections.
Ask Dr. Leman
The hottest topics and time-tested advice that really works.
Monday: Communication and Family Dynamics
Tuesday: Time, Priorities, Activities, Work, and Finances
Wednesday: Discipline and Attitude
Thursday: Dad, Mom, and Marriage
Friday: Family Connections
The Top 10 Countdown to Having a Happy Family by Friday
Bonus Feature
Everybody likes a little extra value, so Ive included a special section to give you more bang for your buck. Enjoy!
The Secrets of Birth Order
Notes
About Dr. Kevin Leman
Resources by Dr. Kevin Leman
Back Ads
Back Cover
Acknowledgments
Thanks to...
My faithful book readers, audience participants, television show watchers, radio listeners, and loyal Facebook fans, who provide much food for thought and inspire material for new books to help multitudes of families just like yours. You are greatly appreciated.
My stellar editorial teamLonnie Hull DuPont, Jessica English, and Ramona Cramer Tuckerwho represent varied stages in the wonderful mixture of life and fun called family .
Can you have a happier family by Friday? Sounds kinda crazy, doesnt it? But its true. You can change your family in five days. Yet if youre like mea little impatientyou want to have a happy family by Wednesday. Or right now.
Heres the great news. You can have a happier family by Friday. In fact, you can have one by Wednesday... or even by the end of today!
Have a Happy Family by Friday will show you how. The principles in this book will give you the road map to success.
You may be married with or without kids. You may be a single parent with kids in your home or with kids being raised by an ex-spouse. You may be a grandparent raising your grandkids or with grandkids living in your house. You might even be single and hoping to be married one day, and you want the scoop on how to craft the happiest family you can imagine.
Is that possible? Yes, it is.
And it has everything to do with you. You can change your familys world.
But let me ask you something first. Was the first meal you ever prepared your best? Was the first job you secured the best job you ever had?
Likely not.
The point is, we all have to start somewhere in order to make visible progress. Todays that day for you and your family.
Every member plays a vital part in the development and well-being of the family unit. Even the dog, cat, and goldfish have a role. All need to contribute in their own unique ways. Everybody in the home is important and deserves to be treated with love and respect. Each person should be granted the right to make mistakes in an environment of unconditional lovewithout being blamed or treated as a failure. In short, a happy family means every person in the family is pulling for each other so that everybody wins.
Is this kind of family life even possible? You bet! You can achieve this kind of family in five days (or less), if you start now and start right .
Many families I know live this way. The growing Leman familymy lovely wife, Sande, five kids, three sons-in-law, and two grandkidsis living proof that these principles work.