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Introducing Dont Forget Your Crown

D ont Forget Your Crown : Self-love Has Everything to Do With is a book written by Derrick Jaxn. He intends the book to help people who are confused about their relationships and help them have clarity and healthier connections. He wants his readers to let go of toxicity and focus on creating strong and long-lasting relationships. He makes clear that his book will not be teaching how to seduce the opposite sex and stresses that love is not a game. He says his book is not a religious doctrine. He teaches love, a teaching which is not reserved for one particular religion. Anyone who wants love is deserving of it but will have to work to have and sustain it. He also warns readers that the book will make them feel uncomfortable because it will challenge their beliefs. An open mind is needed. Readers should not put him in a pedestal because they will read in the book how he made mistakes in life. He wants readers to understand the old person he was and how he grew out of it. The book will accordingly threaten those who hate you and who are threatened by your personal development. His words are powerful because they change lives.

The book speaks to those who are frustrated with dating and have failed relationships. It is for those who are scared of the words Happily ever after and starting all over again. They are the ones who were taught to love everyone else but not themselves. With Dont Forget Your Crown , readers will have the power in their hands to change their sad past and to love themselves first.

The book has 16 chapters, with short chapters that tackle various topics about love, relationships, men, women, self-love, and many more. The author introduces himself as the Self-Love Ambassador and prefers this monicker instead of being called love guru which others also call him. He guides and mentors people about relationships, but being called a guru implies he knows everything, which he says he doesn't. He shares a few things he knows including things that society should stop denying. His main message is about self-love and its importance in a relationship. "Without self-love, no love matters," he says. He shares anecdotes about his life, his relationship with his former girlfriend who is now his wife, and the good and bad things he has done with regard to their love. He describes his wife and who she is in his life now and what she does to him as a person. He compares her initial vision of her as a brand-new Lamborghini but admits he was not ready to drive the car because he was not mature enough. He wishes he was given good advice then but nobody knew how and the author says much advice being given was outmoded. These were 1920s impractical advice being given in the age of social media where women are not expected to stay home and clean the house while men go out to work in steel mills. He says advice should be in tune with todays demands and expectations. Men are expected to be better; women have higher expectations of them. He learned a lot of advice through books, consultations, and friends but all of these were garbage. These were advice like If she loves you enough, shell forgive anything, or All men cheat, even the good ones. He learned by common sense that they dont work. He says these faulty advice come from the media with their false kind of advertising, from pastors sermons, social media, grandmothers wisdom, and even from ones favorite experts. He zeroes in on the single idea of self-love and that is how he managed to fix his life, he says. Advice for the 21st century is needed and he decided to provide that advice instead. In Chapter One he shares how he met his wife in college and what his first impressions about her were. He relates how their relationship started and how the first two years were tumultuous, saying it was him who was in "the eye of the hurricane." A lot of things he did were wrong and he described their relations as being in a downward spiral. He mentions psychology authorities to support his points, citing Harvard University psychology professor B.F. Skinner for example. He also cites celebrities. He mentions Beyonce as an example to prove his point about fine-tuning relationship skills. Athlete Usain Bolt is cited for training hard, which he compares to training oneself in becoming a relationship-ready person. Chapter Two is entitled "Unconditional Love is Dangerous," and discusses how women are trained to love their men but sacrifice themselves in doing so. They should love themselves first, he advises. Unconditional love is a flawed belief. The chapter relates how he and Da'Naia drifted apart due to his disloyalty and through her inability to express her hurt feelings, wanting to be loyal to him. An Amazon reader says the author did his research and included his personal experiences and these made the book a well-written one. He cites the author for his honesty and likes his analogies as a way of explaining his ideas. The parts where he went through heartbreak were difficult to read. It helped him identify his own shortcomings but gave him affirmations as well. Another Amazon review says the book emphasized self-love as a way to have the love that one truly deserves. The chapter on "Relationship Membrane" was particularly interesting. A reader says the author's insights in his YouTube videos are difficult to take and tried reading his book to see how different it would be. The book is accordingly insightful and less harsh as the videos are. It helped him to realize his mistakes in his marriage. He thinks there will be another book coming up. One of the author's video fans thinks the book is a reminder of how her life could be better. One reader reveals that she had been married to a narcissist and now realizes the importance of self-love.