Chris Gottschalk - How to Heal After Heartbreak How to Recover from a Breakup and Get Your Hopes and Dreams Back

How to Heal After Heartbreak

How to Recover from a Breakup and Get Your Hopes and Dreams Back

Chris Gottschalk

How to Heal After Heartbreak: How to Recover from a Breakup and Get Your Hopes and Dreams Back

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Gottschalk, Chris

How to Heal After Heartbreak: How to Recover from a Breakup and Get Your Hopes and Dreams Back / by Chris Gottschalk

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN-13: 978-1-60138-583-3 (alk. paper)

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A few years back we lost our beloved pet dog Bear, who was not only our best and dearest friend but also the Vice President of Sunshine here at Atlantic Publishing. He did not receive a salary but worked tirelessly 24 hours a day to please his parents.

Bear was a rescue dog who turned around and showered myself, my wife, Sherri, his grandparents Jean, Bob, and Nancy, and every person and animal he met (well, maybe not rabbits) with friendship and love. He made a lot of people smile every day.

We wanted you to know a portion of the profits of this book will be donated in Bears memory to local animal shelters, parks, conservation organizations, and other individuals and nonprofit organizations in need of assistance.

Douglas and Sherri Brown

PS: We have since adopted two more rescue dogs: first Scout, and the following year, Ginger. They were both mixed golden retrievers who needed a home.

Want to help animals and the world? Here are a dozen easy suggestions you and your family can implement today:

• Adopt and rescue a pet from a local shelter.
• Support local and no-kill animal shelters.
• Plant a tree to honor someone you love.
• Be a developer put up some birdhouses.
• Buy live, potted Christmas trees and replant them.
• Make sure you spend time with your animals each day.
• Save natural resources by recycling and buying recycled products.
• Drink tap water, or filter your own water at home.
• Whenever possible, limit your use of or do not use pesticides.
• If you eat seafood, make sustainable choices.
• Support your local farmers market.
• Get outside. Visit a park, volunteer, walk your dog, or ride your bike.

Five years ago, Atlantic Publishing signed the Green Press Initiative. These guidelines promote environmentally friendly practices, such as using recycled stock and vegetable-based inks, avoiding waste, choosing energy-efficient resources, and promoting a no-pulping policy. We now use 100-percent recycled stock on all our books. The results: in one year, switching to post-consumer recycled stock saved 24 mature trees, 5,000 gallons of water, the equivalent of the total energy used for one home in a year, and the equivalent of the greenhouse gases from one car driven for a year.

Acknowledgements

Authors get a lot of support while writing a book, and I am no exception. Thanks to my family, who in addition to being lovely people were there for me when I had my heart broken and have supported me in trying to be a writer, neither of which is easy to do. These things mean a lot.

Thanks to the people who took the time to submit case studies and those friends who suggested different sources for the book. It was a huge help, even if the sources did not end up being used.

Also deserving of thanks are my editors Kim Fulscher, Angela Pham, and Shannon McCarthy who kept the book on target, argued with me over changes, and graciously granted me extensions on deadlines, particularly at the end.

Table of Contents

Quick Reference

Introduction

Chapter 1: Understanding How a Relationship Fails

Chapter 2: Coping With Grief

Chapter 3: The Disengagement Protocols

Chapter 4: The Ex Games

Chapter 5: How to Not Let Yourself Go Mentally

Chapter 6: How to Not Let Yourself Go Physically

Chapter 7: Getting Support From Others

Chapter 8: Heartbreak and the Single Parent

Chapter 9: Taking Stock of Your Life and Setting Goals

Chapter 10: Finding and Meeting New People

Chapter 11: Meeting Your Match Online

Chapter 12: Beginning a New Relationship

Conclusion

Bibliography

Author Biography

Quick Reference: How to Have a Healthy Breakup

E ven if breaking up is the right thing to do, it is not easy. Here are some tips that can help you get through your breakup, no matter what side you are on:

You can cry. Even if you think of yourself as tough, the emotional pain you are going through can bring anyone to tears. You might also want to contact a friend or family member to offer you a literal shoulder on which to cry. You need to accept that it is fine to feel bad about the dissolution of your relationship.