Judith Wright EdD - The Heart of the Fight: A Couple’s Guide to Fifteen Common Fights, What They Really Mean, and How They Can Bring You Closer

The Heart of the Fight is an inspirational and eye-opening wake-up call for anyone who wants to create authentic, thriving relationships. From friendships to business relationships to spouses, this book provides great tools for relationships that really work. The book challenges the status quo and opens our eyes to a whole new way of looking at something.

Jack Canfield, coauthor of the New York Times #1 best-selling book series Chicken Soup for the Soul

I have known the Wrights for years and have always been impressed by their grounded approach to relationship and life. They bring an unusual blend of practicality and integrity to their cutting-edge work that eschews simple answers. Their groundbreaking method and research should take its place as simply the most practical, effective approach to maximizing couple and individual potential and satisfaction.

Barnet Bain, film director of Miltons Secret, producer of What Dreams May Come, and author of The Book of Doing and Being

The Heart of the Fight by Judith and Bob Wright is one of those books that is based on good social scientific evidence, the authors own and others research, and yet is written in a lively enough prose style that couples who need the advice will actually enjoy reading it.

Barbara J. Risman,PhD, fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences, professor of sociology at the University of Illinois at Chicago, vice-president of the American Sociological Association, president of the Southern Sociological Society, and president of the board of the Council on Contemporary Families

Judith and Bob Wright draw upon thirty years of research into couples, relationships, and human behavior, as well as their own long marriage, to tell an eye- and heart-opening truth: the conflicts we think we should avoid in our relationships are exactly where we have to go in order to achieve the genuine connection, intimacy, and mutual growth we want in our relationships. This is the must-have manual for lasting and meaningful relationships.

Patricia Crisafulli, best-selling author, and founder of www.faithhopeandfiction.com

At last, heres a brilliant manual for couples that really works. The secret: based on their extensive counseling of couples, Bob and Judith Wright explain why great relationships require great fights. Dont stop fighting, but learn from the Wrights how to fight properly and creatively while you battle your way to bliss. If you feel your daily relationship is like going over Niagara Falls without a barrel, its time to get to calmer waters by fighting hard while fighting clean. This book will show you how.

Larry Kirshbaum, former CEO of Time Warner Book Group, and literary agent

The best relationships, from friends to dates to partners, are the ones where we are willing to deeply engage. The Wrights have put together a breakthrough guide that teaches how to develop the relationship muscles we all need by engaging rather than avoiding.

Sonia Choquette, New York Times best-selling author of The Answer is Simple

I know the Wrights and have seen their work. Ive spoken with their students and been impressed by the vitality, clarity, and forthrightness of their interactions. We have discussed their research and I am consistently impressed by the solidity of their approach and the fact that they practice what they preach. What they are saying in The Heart of the Fight is grounded in years of experience and success. Dont miss this opportunity to understand the basic elements and finer points of relationship success.

Brad Anderson, former CEO of Best Buy

Lovers hate conflicts. Employees hate conflicts. Your pets hate conflicts. But conflictsand the fighting that ensuesare unavoidable, and the more deeply you love someone, or want to love someone, the more fights you are going to have. But if you fight fairly, with love within your heart, your intimacy will prosper. Judith and Bob Wright will show you the right and wrong way to fight, making this a rare and valuable book for every couple and spouse.

Mark Waldman, executive MBA faculty at Loyola Marymount University, and coauthor of How Enlightenment Changes Your Brain

The Heart of the Fight is the first book Ive ever read and loved this much that gives couples practical advice for reframing conflicts in ways that strengthen their ability to stay married forever! I was mesmerized with their new terminology for conflict and with their universally appealing ways to unlock and sustain healthy neurochemistryeven through rocky challenges that might normally take couples down paths of no return when conflict and crisis emerge. Heading into my forty-sixth year of marriage, I found some new and beautiful suggestions for ensuring that the strength of healthy conversations with my husband prevails. This is a must-read book for all couples ready to get married, or in a marriage they want to keep for life!

Judith E. Glaser, author of Conversational Intelligence; CEO of Benchmark Communications, Inc.; and chairman of The CreatingWE Institute

I love this book! Bob and Judith offer the best program Ive seen for using the conflict that inevitably arises in marriage to help a couple create more intimacy. This is a must-read for anyone in a relationship or thinking about getting in a relationship.

Cynthia Kersey, visionary and global humanitarian, founder and CEO of Unstoppable Foundation, and best-selling author of Unstoppable

The Wrights are not afraid to get down and dirty, right smack into the middle of the messiness of relationship. They teach that only by learning from our fights can we unlock the key to real connection and intimacy. They made believers out of us!

Marc Malnati, owner of Lou Malnatis Pizzeria; and Jeanne L. Malnati, LCSW, culture transformation expert

The Heart of the Fight starts with a mind-bending premise: that the purpose of relationships is not to make you happy; it is to make you your best. Big thumbs-up for an unusual, powerful, insightful, and loving approach.

Tony Simons, PhD, associate professor at Cornell University, and author of The Integrity Dividend

Aspiring to the ideal of a marriage made in heaven sets us up for disappointment. Conflict is part of every relationshipbusiness and personaland learning to develop the capacity for constructive discontent is truly the key to long-term relational success. This is a breakthrough book about the power of using conflicts to get closerreally closernot the fairy-tale version, but the strong, robust kind that comes with shared experience, getting to know each other more deeply, and developing enduring trust.

Blaine Bartlett, president and CEO of Avatar Resources, adjunct professor at Beijing University, and board member of the World Business Academy

A unique and refreshing approach to embracing conflict in relationships, Bob and Judith practice what they teachand boy, do they teach it with clarity. Brimming with new insights, [the book] is chock-full of grounded examples. Its a must-read! Dont miss the opportunity to take your relationship to another level.

Ray Blanchard, PhD, visionary leader, coproducer of The ANSWER to Absolutely Everything, and coauthor of the best seller The Art and Science of Success

Ive read a number of books about how to better love your spouse or partner, but I have not seen or read a book about how to fight better. We know that there will be fights, so why not learn how to fight more fairly? That made a lot of sense to me. But Bob and Judith went beyond just the basics to deliver an exceptional set of strategies for fighting for the ultimate goala sustainable, thriving relationship. Thanks for this tool that I know will benefit both me and my husband for many years!