H.G. Tudor - Getting Out! How to Prepare to Leave the Narcissist

1. Introduction

Welcome to an incisive guide to the matters you need to have regard to once you have made the decision that you are going to apply the principle of No Contact to one of our kind. No Contact is regarded as the holy grail of accomplishments when dealing with the narcissist. We hate it. It is designed purely to extinguish our source of fuel and thus it threatens our very existence. Since No Contact amounts to the wooden stake through our dark hearts we will do anything and everything to prevent it, disrupt it and bring it to an end. Moreover, when we are able to hoover you back in and defeat your attempt at No Contact we feel massively powerful. We have won and you will know by now that we love to win and hate to lose. By having you return to us we are made to feel omnipotent. You may come back broken and dejected, not really wanting to but feeling that you have no choice as a consequence of the manipulation we have exerted over you. Alternatively, you may return under the misguided apprehension that everything is going to be different this time. You may have been conned by us letting you have a glimpse of that heaven again and you are blinded by that. We may have promised to change, seek help and/or consent to treatment, but it is all an artifice designed to bring you back under our spell.

The damage that No Contact causes to us means we must mobilise every resource available to us to prevent it from succeeding. This is driven by our need for fuel and the promise of the very sweetest of fuels pouring from you when we successfully break your No Contact and have you return to our world. Every single plan, device, machination and scheme will be devised and implemented to ensure the step you will take fails. No Contact is a death sentence to us and must be avoided at all costs. At any cost. You think that you have faced our worst so far? Think again. You will be unleashing the mother of all charm offensives, the granddaddy of manipulations and the thermonuclear setting in our response.

Every battle is won before it is ever fought. This is a mantra that I apply to much of what I do in my life and is especially applied when it comes to my control of you. I always prefer the outcome to be more or less assured before I act. Bearing in mind that this is how I approach my dealings with you, you will need to adopt this stance also. This is why this publication is all about preparation. It is the ground work that you should put in place in order to maximise your prospects of effecting No Contact successfully. This book is not concerned with how you should execute No Contact nor about how you should maintain that concept. That subject will be dealt with in a forthcoming publication.

Why would you pay any attention to what I have to write? If you have read any of my other books you will be well acquainted with the priceless information and perspective that I provide. If you have not availed yourself of those other works, I suggest that you do, but leaving that point to one side, the reason you ought to digest what I write is that you are being given an insight from the perspective of the narcissist. This is not coming from those who have studied, interacted with or observed the behaviours of the narcissist. It is coming from the master practitioner of the dark arts; me. You are being granted information and observation that enables you to know how we think, how we act, how we plan and how we scheme. By being privy to this knowledge you are giving yourself the best possible chance of effecting your eventual escape from our snaking tendrils. You should liken it to the criminal advising the police and the home owner on the ways that the criminal will break into your home. There is no better source of knowledge. I will divulge to you the things we will do to try and prevent you achieving a state of no contact and thus it will save you from having to second guess us. This will amount to a considerable change for you after what feels like an eternity of trying to work out what we might do or say, in order that you can then please us. I will explain to you the steps we take in order to defeat your intention to implement No Contact and this will enable you to plan accordingly. By having this advance knowledge, you then stand more than a fighting chance of securing your departure from our poisonous grip.

I know exactly what to do to defeat your attempt at No Contact. Much of the failure can be attributed to a lack of effective preparation as it is to a lack of willpower and the force of our machinations.

It is delivered as ever in my customary no-nonsense style. Convoluted explanations and lengthy rambling discussions are not required, nor are they helpful. This is all about giving you the information that you need to make effective decisions, take meaningful action and accordingly give your planned departure from our world the best possible prospect of success. I am unconcerned that many will learn from this and achieve your stated goals. It will not diminish the fuel that I am able to continue to obtain. You will regard it as a sad fact that still too many people have no concept of what a narcissist really is. People have no idea how to spot one and even less of an idea that they have been ensnared by one. This means that there are plenty of potential sources of fuel for my kind and me irrespective of the sound writings in this book. You are one of the wise few. You have identified what has wrapped around you. You know what you are dealing with and you have summoned the resolve to do something about it. This publication will act as your guide and launch pad to ensuring your imminent departure from our malevolent hold on you stands a great chance of succeeding. Read on and begin your preparations to beat the narcissist in your life. I know you will find this riveting and informative. Thank you for reading.