H.G. Tudor - Ask the Narcissist: The Answers to Your Questions

Ask the Narcissist:

The Answers to Your Questions

By

H G Tudor

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Copyright 2016

Ask the Narcissist:

The Answers to Your Questions

By

H G Tudor

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the express written permission of the publisher.

Published by Insight Books

Introduction

My kind are fascinating creatures. Held in revulsion and awe, the narcissist is a person who has a significant impact on everyone he or she interacts with. People are lifted up, people are used, people are treated like kings and queens, people are loved with an intensity they have never experienced and people are abused in horrendous ways. People are manipulated, people are confused, people are exploited, people are made to feel wonderful, people are drained and discarded. The stark contrast that exists between being treated like a god and then cast down into the dirt below confuses and bewilders. Those who have experienced the effects of being ensnared by a narcissist will never be free of the effects of this engagement. They may restore their sanity, rescue their finances, the bruises will heal and the anxiety recedes. No contact may be instigated and maintained to minimize the allure of the narcissist. The memories may begin to lessen over time and their addictive quality fade a degree, through a combination of the passage of time and the resolute determined discipline of the victim to keep the narcissist from out of his or her mind. The ever presence that we have installed in our victims may lose some of its potency given time and technique but there is one issue which always threatens to draw a victim back into our grasp. Unanswered questions.

The behaviour of the narcissist often makes no sense to normal and healthy people because they look at the world through their eyes and not those of the narcissist. The things we say and do appear beyond comprehension. We govern our kingdoms through the application of confusion and illogical behaviour. What many people fail to grasp is that our behaviour is entirely logical to us. It makes perfect sense when looked at through our eyes. If people were able to put themselves in our places, then they would have a much better opportunity to make sense of why we do as we do. They may not accept what we do as right, they may find it abhorrent but they will at least gain an understanding as to why we engage in this behaviour. By achieving understanding the victim will go a long way to enabling themselves to recover, guard against future incursions by our kind and ultimately achieve freedom. So often a victim will still feel a compulsion to contact, be with and engage again with the narcissist even though the victim knows what this person has done to them and is capable of doing so again. Intelligent, sensible and independent individuals will place themselves in the line of fire once more because they need to receive answers to the many questions that the narcissist has left them with.

This unfinished business is a typical maneuver undertaken by our kind to allow us a route back into your life. As an empathic individual, you have a desire to know and understand. This burns away inside and prevents you from gaining closure after your encounter with us and instead compels you to want to become exposed to us once again. These questions run round and round in your minds, causing you upset, confusion and anguish until you contact your tormentor in the hope, albeit a vain and misplaced one, of getting answers. We know you want to do this. We rely on you doing this to allow us to hoover you back into our fantasy world once more and recommence the narcissistic cycle and drink deep of your delicious hoover fuel.

Often the narcissist you have engaged with will not provide you with any answers. This is because he or she does not know what they are and therefore cannot be in any position to explain themselves in a manner which makes sense to you and is satisfactory. Furthermore, even if we do know and have the answers, we will provide you with tit bits in order to maintain your interest and keep you exposed to us so we can keep gaining fuel from you. We will promise the provision of answers whilst giving you some morsel to consider but we will never satisfy your appetite for answers.

This book changes that situation. All of my writings provide you with explanations and answers to why we say and do certain things in the progression of the relationship with our kind. From the outset of targeting you through to a hoover, I have detailed much by way of clarification and explanation and that work continues and is ongoing as part of my treatment as I gain a greater understanding of what I am, in order to pass this information to those who choose to read my works. Those publications will expand on many different points and through reading them you will enhance your understanding and increase your chances of achieving freedom. This book aims to respond to some of the most commonly asked questions of people like me. It is a collection of those questions which I have often been asked by my victims and also questions that contributors have provided in order to seek answers for themselves. I have collated fifty questions which represent a broad selection of queries arising out of the engagement with our kind. From seduction, to devaluation, from targeting to discard and from hoovering to abusing, all areas have been addressed. These answers are given in a direct and understandable fashion. There is no long-winded scientific discourse here, but rather hard-hitting and at times uncomfortable truths. However, as I often explain, the best medicine usually tastes the worst. Accordingly, in order to allow you the best chance to recover from your entanglement with the narcissist and avoid the detrimental effects of dealing with unfinished business and outstanding questions, this publication will provide you with an unrivalled access to information and knowledge, direct from the mind of the narcissist. Use it well and have your questions answered. I have indicated at appropriate junctures where further reading can be found on certain subjects. Of course, if these fifty questions do not include ones that you have, do contact me (details at the end of the book) and pose them.

1.Why do you sometimes ignore our compliments? (From Hope)

We ordinarily love to be complimented. Praise, admiration and adoration can all be exhibited through the provision of a compliment. If you compliment our new tie, our car, our hair cut, our politeness or our compliments which we lavish on you, you are providing us with fuel. The words combined with the emotion gives us the positive fuel which we want from you during our seduction of you. Compliments and flattery are very important to us. During the seduction period, this is what we want from you. We want it each and every day and frequently. Given that this is so important to us why then would we ever ignore a compliment?

We do this when we are devaluing you. As an honest and decent person you know that passing a compliment about someone is a good and pleasant thing to do. The recipient will feel good. He or she will smile and thank you, possibly return the compliment or shrug with embarrassed modesty. This person will not ignore what you have just said. We ignore it in order to gain negative fuel from you and to confuse you. Ignoring you in any event is ill-mannered and rude. To do so when you are paying us a compliment is even worse. In all likelihood this will create a reaction from you of irritation or upset and accordingly this amounts to negative fuel. This also confuses you because you cannot understand why, once upon a time, we reveled in your compliments and also why would anyone ever ignore being complimented? You do not understand why we do this and your confusion is likely to lead you to ask us what is wrong, what have you done and so forth. These questions will be invariably asked in an urgent and pleading manner which provides us with additional negative fuel. Thus, ignoring your compliments is a manipulative technique for the purposes of drawing fuel from you and also creating confusion and consequently exerting further control over you.