Hussey - Get the guy: learn secrets of the male mind to find the man you want and the love you deserve

To the ultimate high-value woman, my mum

This moment contains all moments.

C. S. LEWIS

L ove is hard.

You love someone who doesnt love you back. You fall out of love with a guy you thought youd love forever. Someone you love disappoints you. Or he leaves you. You fall for someone, hard, then never hear from him again. Youve been burned, shut out, and heartbroken.

Even at the best of times, love can be traumatizing, like being punched in the gut. But isnt it amazing that although love sucks, we still want it in our lives? We patch up our hearts and go forth, hoping to find our real true love. Why? Why risk it all again? Because nothing feels as good as being in love. There is nothing better than lying in bed on a Sunday morning with someone who drives you wild. Nothing like the sound of your beloveds voice when he simply says, Hello. There is no business opportunity, no promotion, no holiday, no amount of money that makes our hearts swell so.

Whatever your experiences with guys have been in the past, I know the odds are you will go out and try to find love again. This time, though, Id like you to go back out with the tools and techniques that will help guarantee success in finding the man of your dreams.

So often I hear, where are all the good men? Theyre all around you! The problem is that youre not meeting them, simply because you havent given yourself the opportunity to meet them. Im not talking about meeting every player whos wagging his tongue at you from across the bar, but someone up to your standards, whos worth your time and attention.

Finding a guy isnt just about finding a guy. Its about living a life that engages you at every level and by extension creates opportunities for you to connect with many people. Some may well be guys you date, and one may be the man of your dreams. The real benefit to the techniques I teach is that you will raise the level at which you live your life. Women who live passionate lives are inherently sexy and attractive.

What I teach in this book is how you can be proactive in your love life without seeming desperate or easy, and how you can choose the man you want to meet but still get him to do the chasing. Most of all, Ill show you how to do this naturally, so that you never have to play games again.

When I was just starting to notice girls, I used to wonder how other guys always seemed to be able to get the girl they wanted, while I somehow always ended up with whoever would have me. It drove me mad.

Even at a young age, I knew that there were rules of attraction that eluded me. The frustration I felt about my own lack of prowess spurred me to teach myself how to become acquainted with the girls to whom I was attracted, how to talk to them, how to attract them, and how to win them.

Over the years, I became more confident and successful. I believed I had tapped into something I could share with others, and I started to coach other guys on how to do the same for themselves. My coaching business grew quickly, and over the course of a few years, I worked with more than ten thousand guys on how to attract women. By trying to overcome my own limitations I wound up developing a widespread reputation throughout the United Kingdom for helping guys with their love lives. I was featured in a major documentary and dubbed in the press as a real-life Hitch, after the 2005 romantic comedy starring Will Smith as a professional date doctor.

One day I was giving a talk to a room full of three hundred guys, and to break the ice I asked, So, who here wants to get laid? There wasnt a single woman in the room. There was no reason for them to be anything but honest. You would think they would all raise their hands. What guy doesnt want to get laid, right? But only 60 percent of them raised their hands. Then I asked, Who here wants to find a great relationship? And do you know what happened? Every single hand in the room went up.

It turns out that men want what women want: a lasting, meaningful relationship.

I couldnt stop thinking about that show of hands. If women knew this about men, I thought, it might make them feel more optimistic about finding true love.

At first, the thought of coaching women seemed daunting. How could I possibly understand a womans point of view? Why would anyone listen to me? Im a guy. How could I possibly help? But then the idea struck me that I knew what guys were thinking. I had spent years learning about what makes guys tick and what they were looking for. What if I took all of that acquired intelligence and shared it with women so they could use it to find love? I could help them get noticed, get dates, and get treated with respect. Perhaps I could even help them to get the proposal of marriage so many of my female friends thought was out of reach.

I created some basic and practical steps for women to follow and then hosted a small gathering for the women in my life. At this meeting, I distilled and divulged what Id learned about the way men think and how women could use this to their advantage. We worked on elegant techniques the women could use to influence men without ever looking as if they were doing anything. I offered subtle ways in which they could be proactive in their love lives, ways that would slip completely under a guys radar, so that they could choose the guy they wanted and orchestrate his attraction.

The key to making it all work is striking the perfect balance between being proactive and being high value. (Theres plenty in this book on the subject of being a high-value woman. More about that later.)

I had no idea how this would all go over, but my friends were floored. Theyd never heard these things before, certainly never from a guy. In some ways, I felt as if I was betraying my own sex by coming over to fight for the other side, but I really wanted to bring some assistance to my female friends. Even though I believed every word of what I told these women, what happened next was crazy.

Within the next week my single friends began getting dates with men who appealed to them. Those in relationships started saying their boyfriends were treating them with more respect, admiration, and attraction. Men who had never said, I love you started saying it for the first time; one even proposed, though previously he had said he never would. Three months later, the women whod been single were in relationships with guys they adored.

Word spread. Women I didnt know started calling me, asking for advice. E-mails flooded my inbox from women with dating and relationship questions. I began conducting private coaching sessions. Every week, Id receive phone calls at all hours of the night from women in far-flung time zones.

This was the beginning of what would be a years-long journey of working with fifty thousand women in Get the Guy events, and with millions online, to help them find love. Through Get the Guy, I now host everything from weekend events aimed at transforming womens love lives to transformative five-day retreats held all over the world. The contents of this book are the result of what I have been thinking about, teaching, and refining over the past four years.

During the Get the Guy weekend course, I give women the A to Z on everything they need to know, from where to meet the right guys and how to attract them, to how to make the guy theyve chosen desire a relationship that will last a lifetime. Ive utilized thousands of real-life case studies to road test every technique and theory. My mission is to share every piece of secret information about men that I have been privy to in order to transform womens love lives.