Romy Miller - How to Talk to the Ladies: Make a Connection and Start Dating!

How to Talk to the Ladies

Make a Connection and Start Dating!

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How to Be Wanted: A Guide to Using the Law of Attraction for Better Relationships, Dating, Love and Romance (Revised and Updated)

How to Be a Hottie : Become Uniquely, Irresistibly You and Attract Men Like Crazy!

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How to Talk to the Ladies

Make a Connection and Start Dating!

Romy Miller

Artrum Media

How to Talk to the Ladies: Make a Connection and Start Dating! Copyright 2012 by Romy Miller.

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Published by Artrum Media.

eBook ISBN13: 978-1-938107-14-6

eBook ISBN10: 1-938107-14-4

Disclaimer: This book is not intended to replace medical advice or be a substitute for a psychologist. The author and publisher expressly disclaim responsibility for any adverse affects of this book. Neither author nor publisher is liable for information contained herein.

For the shy guys.

Contents

Its Not Hard to Talk to the Ladies

In the dating world, one of the main issues that guys seem to have is that they dont know to talk to the ladies. In fact, the main issues seem to deal with their frustration at the fact that they dont know how to approach a woman, talk to her or ask her out. For some reason, these issues seem like insurmountable obstacles to some men. This is where a lot of them get hung up and is sometimes the reason they dont date at all. Many men are convinced that talking to women is a big deal. And the primary reason for this is because they fear rejection.

Rejection is hard for anyone but sometimes its necessary to get through a few before you get your big break. Yes, I know. But what if I attempt to talk to a woman and she laughs at me or, worse, ignores me? Yes, this is a legitimate fear; however, you shouldnt let it stop you from trying. Perhaps youve been rejected in the past. Maybe you have attempted to talk to the ladies to no avail. I know its tough, but you have to keep trying. However, you need to find out how you can do it and do so in a successful fashion. You want to make a connection and start dating. Well, thats what this guide is all about. It is about how you can make an introduction, talk to and then ask out the woman of your choosing.

Talking to women is, in my honest opinion, a pretty simple task. However, as I said earlier it seems to be the one thing that trips most guys up and the reason is because they get intimidated and fear rejection. This keeps a lot of men single and alone on Saturday nights. Not a nice place to be, to say the least, even if you have a spectacular bachelor pad.

So, it boils down to this simple fact: If you want to talk to a hot woman, she already knows you want to talk to her. Its no secret. You know it. She knows it. So, why hide it? Why hide the fact that you have some interest in talking to her? Why not, instead of hanging back and trying to pretend that you dont know she exists, just walk right up to her and give it a shot? This little move is what separates the men who date frequently from those who dont. Those who do simply try and those who dont Well, they dont. Those who do dont allow intimidation to trip them up. And those who dont allow intimidation to trip them up. Its that easy.

Its about taking the attitude of why not? Why not approach her and have a little chat and see where it leads? If you do this, then you know whether or not you have a shot with her. Then you can get on with your life in one way or another. If she likes you, then she likes you. And you will know it. Thats what that initial conversation is all about: Trying to figure out if the two of you vibe well enough to get a date going.

Sounds simple enough, eh? Well, it is. Once you get over your intimidation, you will be well on your way talking with the womanor womenof your choosing. You might even find that you like doing it, too, and soon will wonder why it ever bothered you in the first place. Its about breaking down barriersyour barriers of hesitation and fear of rejection that keep you from making the effort.

This guide contains principles to apply and things to think about along the way to get the conversation rolling. These principles are similar to ones Ive written about in my book, Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary. However, I wanted to take these principles, flesh them out a little and write a guide solely dedicated to how, exactly, a guy can talk to a lady.

The main thing to focus on is the fact that people love talking to each other. Knowing this and knowing that probably, yes, she does want someone to talk to her and get to know her better, will be the key to unlocking your confidence and allowing you to be freer when talking to the ladies.

Knowledge is power and the more knowledge you have, the better you will be at doing whatever it is that youre trying to do which, in this case, is talking to women. And, just so youll know, it is not that hard to talk to the ladies. Some guys just make it harder than it really is.

Lets get rolling.

Nerves Of Steel?

Bear in mind that you will, more than likely, be very nervous when you first start talking to a woman you dont know. Thats okay. We all get nervous when talking to someone new. (I dont know anyone with nerves of steel.) We dont want to come off as looking like an idiot or make an ass out of ourselves. Of course, you might stumble over your words and thats okay. Its okay to not always have to be the super cool guy or whatever.

But how to overcome your nervousness? Its easy and it works: Take a deep breath, tell yourself that everything will be okay and then go about your business. You have to walk through the fear to get to the other side and, after you do this a few times, your nervousness should subside. The more times you do it, the more comfortable you will get at doing it.

If you have trouble talking to people in general, heres a suggestion: Why not try talking to people in ordinary situations? You can do this by talking to the cashier at the grocery store, people you see on the elevator at work, people on the subway or on buses. The point is to try and hone your conversation skills in everyday situations. That way, when you have an opportunity to talk to a beautiful lady, youll be ready.

Another good point to make is that just being yourself will help you over many hurdles. If youre just yourself, you dont have to put up a front that someone might see through, which might make you even more nervous. Its very important to come across as a genuine guy and its so easy to accomplish and all you have to do is just be yourself. Nerves can get in the way of this and thats why you should just do your best to not let them dictate how you act. If you let your nerves take over, then things could turn out Well, not so good. If, however, you take a breath, allow your nerves to calm a little, then you can be yourself. And women love men who are true to who they are.

When you do this, you allow her to get to know you better and also to ascertain if she would, in fact, like to go out on a date with you. So, its important to keep your nerves in check and to relax. Once you can do that, you can talk with the best of them and keep up.

Also, dont try too hard. Dont try too hard to be funny or to impress her. Just allow the conversation to be whatever it is going to be and be yourself in the process. Remember that this should be fun and if its not fun, then why are you bothering?